Are you struggling with finding energy and motivation to get back to living after the loss of a loved one, a job, a relationship, or any other form of loss?
Hi, I am Janet Jones, founder of Happiness Millionaire. I have recently started talking to a rock! This helps me navigate the next chapter of my life, the chapter without my 22-year-old son, Murray. The Rock's name is Sylvia-Rose. To learn more about how and why we met, read the first blog - 'If Rocks Could Talk, meet Sylvia-Rose'.
Our chat about finding meaning and purpose after loss, on 23rd October 2021
Jan - Hi, Sylvia-Rose. How are you?
SR - I am good. Glad you made it. You nearly didn’t.
Jan - No. it was difficult getting out of bed. I tried that motivational thing of counting down to 5 and then getting out of bed. I climbed back in. I feel safe in bed. No life pressures. No one expecting me to be anything other than I am.
SR - Does that make your feel better?
Jan - Yes and no. Happiness seems to be a conflict of interest at the moment. Staying in bed, warm, listening to the sea and the birds feels like ‘being’. At the same time, I feel I am wasting my short visit on planet Earth as another day ticks by. Am I wasting my time?
SR - Not if you are feeling good. Perhaps you are if you are not feeling good. Only you can decide.
Jan - I wish someone else could decide. I know missing Murray saps my energy but I don’t know what to do with that?
- That is a difficult one. You are doing really well though. So long as you feel you are still in the game at the end of the day, I guess that is good for now. Take it easy today. Be kind to yourself. Murray is with you. He wants you to be kind to yourself. He wished it were different but it isn’t. Sorry
Keep going. See you tomorrow. Love You. Xx
Jan - love You too. I will try to be here in the morning. I used to be so hard on people who used the word ‘try’. My answer was always that you either will or you won’t. Now I know the effort in trying! See you tomorrow. Xx